Love as affection often happens without our will. People "fall in love".

As affection eventually diminishes staying in love must be worked at by both parties.

The person loving must encourage feelings of affection(work) and the person loved must behave in a fashion that encourages affection.(earn)

What begins as unintentional and automatic becomes intentional and deliberate.

This intentional and deliberate love is required of all Christians with all people; those they know and those they have never met.

What makes the Christian different from the rest is that he is required, by God, to love in this manner regardless of  the behavior of the person being loved.

I love to serve.

    I love to serve people food. I love to prepare it and make people happy with this part of hospitality. I especially love to serve my wife, but I still thoroughly enjoy serving anyone. It does not matter who they are or where they come from or what they look like. I never think about if they deserve it or if I could slack off because their not that important. I just serve to best of my ability.

   Why then do I seem to have a problem with serving people as the Church. Why do I make a mental note of who is worthy and who is not. It's like I think the Church's reputation will be soiled because we are serving THAT KIND OF PERSON. I feel like the Church will be seen as indorsing sinful behavior.

   This is crazy thinking. In my life I serve tens of thousands of meals a year. Never once do I consider that I am endorsing some behavior when I serve them. I don't ask them to clean up their acts before they can have something to eat.  It seems to me that the Church should be the the same way.